Dating is a dangerous game, so make sure you know how to play. Even if you THINK you know everything, you better keep that “guide” handy, otherwise you will find yourself in a situation wondering how you got there. One of those situations could be rebounding. Let me tell you, better to be the rebounder, than the reboundee.
Rebounding is the act of expressing emotions you feel with one person on another. It’s meeting a guy or girl by chance or mistake, and treating them with the same love you had for another person that you yearn to show it to. Rebounding can also be the act of letting someone else treat you like you want to be treated, like for example the emotional need of feeling wanted. Mainly a female trait, but letting some guy, or girl, tell you how much they love you, or let them take you out all the time, or buy you gifts, is just as bad as leading someone on. All you are doing is filling a void that has been left in your heart. But what you don’t realize at the time is, that liquid you are filling your heart with is transparent. And even though it has mass and takes up space, you see right through it, and it has no real meaning or substance because it doesn’t replace what was lost. Rebounding is such a deceitful act emotionally because only ONE of the people in the relationship knows, “everything you are doing is really a waste of time for you, because I don’t really want to be with you, I am just using you to get what I need.”
Rebounding can be an emotional release that is needed to move on, but it is definitely a selfish act. There is no righteousness in rebounding, no virtue in its false effigy of how you really feel. Its authenticity is that of a cubic zirconium, which is manufactured by man and not by au naturel. Does it help? Yes. Makes it easier to cope, but leaves a deadly wound on the victims heart. A wound so profound, it could cause them to trust no one, and shut everyone out. Become a one man show in trying to be successful in life and seek help from no one just so he can say, “I did it without you.” He might even seek revenge and “rebound” on every woman he can get his hands on.
What is the cause of rebounding? Typically major break up. You lose someone you really loved usually over something minor, and once your anger or frustration fads, you begin to miss them. You want what you had back and now you seek it in anyone’s face. You give the guy who doesn’t deserve a chance, an opportunity. You look twice at the unattractive guy you wouldn’t normally pursue simply because he approached you. All the while you are secretly contacting and negotiating with your ex for a second chance, rather your ex gives you the time of day or not. Once you get closure from the last relationship, or you renew it and your heart is finally resuscitated, your mind realizes you are stuck in a dead end relationship because this person is not who you really want.
Rebounding is the act of expressing emotions you feel with one person on another. It’s meeting a guy or girl by chance or mistake, and treating them with the same love you had for another person that you yearn to show it to. Rebounding can also be the act of letting someone else treat you like you want to be treated, like for example the emotional need of feeling wanted. Mainly a female trait, but letting some guy, or girl, tell you how much they love you, or let them take you out all the time, or buy you gifts, is just as bad as leading someone on. All you are doing is filling a void that has been left in your heart. But what you don’t realize at the time is, that liquid you are filling your heart with is transparent. And even though it has mass and takes up space, you see right through it, and it has no real meaning or substance because it doesn’t replace what was lost. Rebounding is such a deceitful act emotionally because only ONE of the people in the relationship knows, “everything you are doing is really a waste of time for you, because I don’t really want to be with you, I am just using you to get what I need.”
Rebounding can be an emotional release that is needed to move on, but it is definitely a selfish act. There is no righteousness in rebounding, no virtue in its false effigy of how you really feel. Its authenticity is that of a cubic zirconium, which is manufactured by man and not by au naturel. Does it help? Yes. Makes it easier to cope, but leaves a deadly wound on the victims heart. A wound so profound, it could cause them to trust no one, and shut everyone out. Become a one man show in trying to be successful in life and seek help from no one just so he can say, “I did it without you.” He might even seek revenge and “rebound” on every woman he can get his hands on.
What is the cause of rebounding? Typically major break up. You lose someone you really loved usually over something minor, and once your anger or frustration fads, you begin to miss them. You want what you had back and now you seek it in anyone’s face. You give the guy who doesn’t deserve a chance, an opportunity. You look twice at the unattractive guy you wouldn’t normally pursue simply because he approached you. All the while you are secretly contacting and negotiating with your ex for a second chance, rather your ex gives you the time of day or not. Once you get closure from the last relationship, or you renew it and your heart is finally resuscitated, your mind realizes you are stuck in a dead end relationship because this person is not who you really want.
Now your attitude changes dramatically towards them, now you hate the simple things about them. You find reasons to argue because you are honestly upset that you let yourself get caught in this enigma and you need a way to end it quickly. All this because your heart was broken and you sought the easy way to mend it. Such selfishness is not tolerated in karma’s book, and it will come back on you. I know, because I have been both the rebounder, and reboundee. So take it from me, be careful who you give your heart to. And most importantly, don’t get something started you do not intend to finish. You might wake up and realize that the special someone you have been dating for 2 years, never intended to finish it with you from the beginning.
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