"Rebound"

Dating is a dangerous game, so make sure you know how to play. Even if you THINK you know everything, you better keep that “guide” handy, otherwise you will find yourself in a situation wondering how you got there. One of those situations could be rebounding. Let me tell you, better to be the rebounder, than the reboundee.

Rebounding is the act of expressing emotions you feel with one person on another. It’s meeting a guy or girl by chance or mistake, and treating them with the same love you had for another person that you yearn to show it to. Rebounding can also be the act of letting someone else treat you like you want to be treated, like for example the emotional need of feeling wanted. Mainly a female trait, but letting some guy, or girl, tell you how much they love you, or let them take you out all the time, or buy you gifts, is just as bad as leading someone on. All you are doing is filling a void that has been left in your heart. But what you don’t realize at the time is, that liquid you are filling your heart with is transparent. And even though it has mass and takes up space, you see right through it, and it has no real meaning or substance because it doesn’t replace what was lost. Rebounding is such a deceitful act emotionally because only ONE of the people in the relationship knows, “everything you are doing is really a waste of time for you, because I don’t really want to be with you, I am just using you to get what I need.”

Rebounding can be an emotional release that is needed to move on, but it is definitely a selfish act. There is no righteousness in rebounding, no virtue in its false effigy of how you really feel. Its authenticity is that of a cubic zirconium, which is manufactured by man and not by au naturel. Does it help? Yes. Makes it easier to cope, but leaves a deadly wound on the victims heart. A wound so profound, it could cause them to trust no one, and shut everyone out. Become a one man show in trying to be successful in life and seek help from no one just so he can say, “I did it without you.” He might even seek revenge and “rebound” on every woman he can get his hands on.

What is the cause of rebounding? Typically major break up. You lose someone you really loved usually over something minor, and once your anger or frustration fads, you begin to miss them. You want what you had back and now you seek it in anyone’s face. You give the guy who doesn’t deserve a chance, an opportunity. You look twice at the unattractive guy you wouldn’t normally pursue simply because he approached you. All the while you are secretly contacting and negotiating with your ex for a second chance, rather your ex gives you the time of day or not. Once you get closure from the last relationship, or you renew it and your heart is finally resuscitated, your mind realizes you are stuck in a dead end relationship because this person is not who you really want.

Now your attitude changes dramatically towards them, now you hate the simple things about them. You find reasons to argue because you are honestly upset that you let yourself get caught in this enigma and you need a way to end it quickly. All this because your heart was broken and you sought the easy way to mend it. Such selfishness is not tolerated in karma’s book, and it will come back on you. I know, because I have been both the rebounder, and reboundee. So take it from me, be careful who you give your heart to. And most importantly, don’t get something started you do not intend to finish. You might wake up and realize that the special someone you have been dating for 2 years, never intended to finish it with you from the beginning.

"Cause, I'ma Flirt"

So a certain someone is attempting to CONFRONT me and say I play too many games. I play with women’s hearts and I end up breaking them, so I have been code named, “heartbreak hotel.” What a rude nickname! But unfortunately it may be true. I have some demons in my past, so I am definitely afraid of Karma at this point. But I still stand true to the genius revelation of Big Pun, "I'm Not A Playa, I Just Crush A Lot"

So the question has been raised where do you draw the line? When is it NOT ok to flirt? Well that’s an easy answer. I will flirt with anyone, anywhere, at anytime and think nothing of it. It’s when you begin to entertain the ideas you were originally falsely promoting is when the problem comes. It’s when you get carried away and start getting phone numbers and actually calling them. It’s when you say to your girl “I’m hanging with the fellas” knowing you going out with Stacey from Cold Stone. I was so bad, back in the ‘day day’ as Mi Amor would say, I use to replace girls names I was kickin it with with Guy names in my phone. So Kelly = Kevin. Ashley = Ashton. Sharon = Shaun. Get the picture. Man I thought I was slick!!!

Why do I flirt? I do it all mainly for entertainment. I flirt with women behind counters at registers, sales associates, waiters, all that. Makes the experience more fun and memorable while waiting in line or on my food. I am definitely a midnight story women tell their friends about. “Girl, I met this INSANE guy today at work. He was off the wall.” Rather they laugh with me or at me is irrelevant because I had fun in the process and that’s all that matters. I also do it because it helps me sell things better. So when a mother and daughter come in, I always say “you guys sisters?” The mother eats it up!!! The daughter laughs. It’s a wonderful ice breaker to get the momentum going in the sale.

But I understand the message it might send from the outside looking in. The insecurity behind the uncertainty of your motives can definitely cause some confusion with the opposite sex, especially if we are dating. This insecurity has valid reasoning, so I will not dismiss its convection. However, what about trust? Communication? If you trust me then there will be no issues. Now I am not asking you to be naïve about it, but if you don’t see me acting distant towards you, or my behavior doesn’t change, then you have nothing to worry about.

Mi Amor is rather aware that no woman comes before her so my flirting does not bother her as much. She is rather cocky about the situation if I might say so, that there is not a woman out there that competes with her and my love for her. And trust me, she communicates that to me very well!

So does it really all boil down to confidence? Sure does. That’s why you see the ugliest guys with the baddest girls. They all have confidence in themselves and women see that. Be confident that you, as my girlfriend, have my hearts undivided attention. And that’s what matters most. Unless Christina Millian comes along, then you might have a problem.

"Resentment"

The question has been raised to me about having resentment towards God because He took away a family member before they wanted Him to. I am not sure how you want me to present that, so I will do it the only way I know how, truth.

Everyone has lost a family member. Ask yourself this question, when is it ever COOL to lose a family member? Or anyone for that matter! Like "Damn, I am so gald that nigga is dead!" There is never a RIGHT time for it to happen, it just happens. Rather you lose someone while they are still living, or they pass on. It hurts because you invested a part of yourself with that person and you will never see them again on this earth. How can you resent God and expect Him to be hurt from your resentment in the same way you are hurt from losing a loved one?

God heard you when you said, “God, why did you take him/her away, I needed them. They were my support.” If you listen hard enough, what God is trying to say back to you is, “You don’t need them, you need Me.” Maybe you follow the rules and regulations of this person so much you forget about Him. What if that family member was aware of this and had been praying for you all along, that God find a way to bring you closer to Him? Well, maybe He has, you just don’t know it yet.

Consider this. Have you ever stopped to think about the relationship your loved one had with God? What if they were experiencing so much pain, a pain you are involuntarily deaf to, and God decides to relieve them from it? Ever stop to think God has a plan that’s BIGGER than just you and how you feel about a situation?

It is such a selfish thought to only consider yourself in the equation of someone ELSE’S life. To think the only thing that mattered when it came to this person was the relationship you shared with them. In life, things happen we don’t agree with. And when resentment to this level is involved, its because you don’t understand why it happened.

If you take nothing else away from this message, remember this. Do not try and understand what God is doing and just have faith that it is the best thing for you in the end. Because it always is. That was the first mistake we ever made by eating the forbidden fruit because we were desiring His knowledge, and look where that left us. We damaged our souls/spirits so heavily that it took God Himself to be made flesh and take on the sins of the world as the perfect sacrifice. A sacrifice of pure, unconditional love. So next time you are feeling the pain of losing your loved one, ask God how much it hurt to see His son be crucified.

Stop cursing God for what you have lost and thank God for what He allowed you to still have. Thank God for your health, and that YOU do not have cancer. Thank God that you still have FAMILY. There are people out there who have no family due to a house fire, or some other disaster. Stop and smell the roses for a change. If anything, losing a loved one should show how frail and temporary life really is. You should learn to appreciate it, instead of crying when things don’t go your way, like the child you ONCE were.

"An Interesting Theory"

I read this somewhere, don't remember where. Now I do not follow the whole astrology thing, but this is very interesting. Tell me if you think its me? There are so many parts to it so I am going to break it down in pieces.

Pisces and Independence:

Pisces needs a dominant partner of role model in their life or they will very easily fall into a pit of self-pity and self-undoing. When they are independent and inspired by life's events, their creativity comes shining through but they are unable to be on their own for long before they start dreaming in their imaginary world of happy people and happy endings. They need other people to keep them grounded and on the right track.

Pisces and Friendship:

Pisces will go out of their way to help a friend. They are extremely sensitive and loyal. They will take a friend's problem and make it their own and suffer with them. This is the weak spot of Pisces but any friend of this zodiac sign should know that although they are attracted to people with severe problems who desperately need help, this actually does more harm them good. Even though Pisces will offer to make everything right, do not allow them to take on all your problems because they will lose their identity in your situation. They need a strong positive friend to make them strong. Pisces like adventure, new situation and social events. A Pisces friend will always have something exciting in mind and it is a very fulfilling, long lasting friendship.

Now this is scary true! MAKES ME HATE BEING BORN IN FEBRUARY! Mi Amor can atest to me being my own worse critic over the most trivial subjects. Though I am pretty independent so this is not all the way true for me. I don't need affirmation on things in life. I am confident, and to some, arrogant. But I am so loyal that I look to help solve others issues when confronted with them. I feel like its my destiny in some way to inspire others because of how much compassion I have for others. And whoever I marry is going to be the happiest woman alive because of how I am going to treat her. God loves me unconditionally, and so I must do the same. There is more to come on the dive into my personality. Much more. Stay tuned

"The Grim Reaper"

Reaping what you so. I am afraid of being a victim of this karma so I am going to ask God to forgive me for anything I have done in the past. I feel compelled to tell the story because I have done some dumb things in the past. So today I just want to keep making the right decisions towards my Goal and pray my future is not full of demons from my past. And cut off all unneeded accessories and extentions in my life, rather I want to or not. Rather material, or a person. Some things MUST change.

Keeping it short because I just had to release this feeling on paper. More to come soon.